I changed my Relationship status on Facebook the other day from saying: ‘Single’, to; ‘In a Relationship…… with LIFE.’ However, sadly, for some inexplicable reason, the; ‘with LIFE’ did not appear. Somehow Facebook would not accept my partner; ‘life.’ It just said; ‘In a Relationship.’ I did not realize the mistake at first, until I started getting weird comments on my Time line such as; so happy for you, you deserve love, etc, etc. I even had my sister phoning me saying, in a very hurt little voice: I hear your Relationship status on Face Book says in a Relationship. The in between the lines were:
AND YOU HAVE NOT TOLD ME!
Funny thing is, when I put that on my Relationship status, I had not really given it much thought, and I don’t know why I just impromptu decided to change my status on Facebook.
But I started thinking; I really am on such a high, and quite frankly, I don’t have any reason to be on a high. Admittedly I started Ozone therapy again in January and that always puts me on a high, but it started before January, it has been for quite a while.
Often people have asked me whether an experience like I have had where the real possibility of death is banging at your door, changes your life, and I have always said no, that it did not. But I think I was mistaken, I think it has changed me. I think it started changing me from that very first day when I heard the words: “Sorry your results are positive, you have Cancer”
I entered into the most important relationship, with life. Not with my life, but with life in general, and there is a difference. Being in a relationship with MY life would be insular. It would be the same as saying, you are in a relationship with Your Dennis, or Your Jack. You are not in a relationship with Your Jack, you are just in a relationship with Jack. Jack is not yours, he is his own person. Often we forget that. Sometimes a women/man takes 10 years to change their partner, and then say, they are not the person they married.
Being in a relationship with Life, is liberating, it means that I am not trying to change or manipulate or force anything in my life, I am just going to let it happen and enjoy every day for that day, come good or bad. And it does not mean that there will not be days that I might feel down or sad. It just means I am going to let life happen. I really did this without me noticing, which was wonderful really and how I think a good relationship should be, a marathon, not a sprint. You open your eyes one day and think; wow I really am in love with you. It might have taken some time to realize it, but better late than never.
So…… the definition of love:
Because love is such a difficult word to define, there are hundreds of definitions, but this is the one I liked the most.
- An inexplicable strong feeling of desire and /or longing for another individual
- A state of sweaty palms, heart palpitations, nausea and an inability to speak when around the object of desire
- A constant source of pleasure and pain
- I have an inexplicable strong feeling of desire for life.
- I wake up some mornings and I feel anxious, get heart palpitations feel nauseous and do not want to speak at all.
- Sometimes life throws me an experience that elates me and gives me great pleasure and other times immense pain.
So I must be in love with life!
And if you are in a Relationship, as in the way Facebook means, then you presumably are in love with that person.
Therefore, I am most definitely in a Relationship with LIFE.
And there is this saying; if you are waiting for the person that is going to change your life, you should take a look in the mirror.